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Born: 24th October 2006;
Died: 22nd December 2006;
Aged 8 weeks and 3 days old.
"Our Sweet Princess"
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The Viewing
On Thursday the 11th January we got the call we had been waiting for. Ashleighs body had been released and we were free to make her funeral arrangments. It had been 3.5 weeks since she had passed away and we had been waiting for the coroner to finish tests that they were performing and to put everything back where it came from so we could have Ashleigh whole for the funeral.
We were given this option, and although it made the wait longer, it helped us to know that this would be the case, and gave us time to plan a proper funeral. Later that day we went to the funeral home and made the final arrangments
The following day the funeral notice was put into the paper stating that the funeral would be held on Tuesday the 16th January at 2.00pm
We also planned for a viewing to be held the day before at 4.30. This was for close family and friends only. There was just Nick and I, our parents, Boyds Godparents, my Brother and Sisters and Nicks "aunt and uncle" (not blood, but like it). It was a small affair. We had dropped Boyd off at Yvonnes for a play on the way and we got there just after 4pm. My sister and her boyfriend were already there (unusual for them to be early, we were surprised) we went in and Nick and I went in to see her first, alone. She looked beautiful. We had had a hard time working out what she was to wear that day, but we ended up deciding on a pink dress (see picture - this was taken when she was about 3-4 weeks; we didnt take any pictures of her at the funeral home...which we now regret)  she also wore a Bright Pink Baby beehinds Bamboo MCN. (I had just stopped using huggies on her at all the week before. She was finally a fully clothed up little girl. I had to make sure she was wearing a cloth nappy for her funeral as thats who she was. It was another tough choice, but I chose one she had two of. So I always have the other one and I didnt loose a very special one)
They had done a wonderful job making sure shee looked at she had. Even to the point that she still had her gunkey eye. She had had that since she was about 2 days old, adn it just never cleared up. No matter how often I put breast milk in there I couldnt get it to clear. Nick and I both noticed it was there and were pleased they hadnt cleared it off. It was apart of her.
We went in with our respective parents and friends. When the last of them left we went back in and talked to her together. It wasnt as hard as I thought it would be leaving her that day, I guess because we knew we wuold go back the next day. But still it was hard. I just wanted to scoop her up and take her home. My mind played tricks on me too - there were a couple of times I could have sworn I saw her breathing. I know that it isnt possible, but I honestly thought I saw it.
When we left we talked about her the whole way to picking Boyd up. How beautiful she was and how much we just wanted to bring her home.
That was the viewing. I cant write about the funeral now. It has taken too much out of me writting just this out. So I will leave it at that for now.
xoxo
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Posted: 6:56 PM, 30/1/2007 |
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Thankyou
I was privileged enough to see Ashleigh at the viewing and in all honesty as i sat down next to her tiny pink coffin and held her hand, stroked her face and talked to her i saw a beautiful baby, cute child and stunning woman.
Michelle,
I spoke to Ashleigh while holding her hand.. I asked her to watch over you and give your heart hugs when you needed it, i asked her to smile and laugh so you would hear it when the wind blew, i asked her to cry tears of joy so you could feel them when it rained, i asked her watch you so you could see it when the sun shone, i asked her to play with my friends baby (Mark- 5 months) so you could know she was not ever alone. I asked her to stay in your heart, soul and mind so not a moment went by when you didn’t know you angel was with you. I told her she was perfect she a guardian and we were honored to have met, held and loved her.
After that you came and sat down with me and i said good bye, but i am glad i got to say all i wanted too and thank you for that opportunity.
Love Kris
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Posted by Anonymous at 9:56 PM, 24/10/2007 |
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